最近还蛮多人的，来到这里发泄情绪，虽然多是来者不善，也没关系啦
只要是愿意聊天的，不管内容是好是坏，来到这里了，都欢迎你们啦～
什么意见我都会接受，认不认同是另一回事，尽管发泄你们的情绪吧~
只要你们觉得开心，这里就是你们的乐园，没有规则的，自然就好 XD
好久没这么热闹了，一堆人发表意见，虽然有点不习惯，感觉还蛮好的
毕竟看了会留言，都算有心交流啦，说起来也是客，没有不欢迎的理由
只是有点担心，你们不习惯这里的自助方式，会以为被忽略/不受欢迎
习惯就好，来多几次，应该会好一点吧，希望你们也喜欢来这里啦 XD
有些留言可能比较直接，但我也蛮喜欢爽快的人，干脆磊落的，赞啦！
尽管来吧，讽刺也好，侮辱也好，双关都好，你敢讲的，我都敢听 XD
好久都没有火了，好怀念啊，如果可能的话，尽管放马过来吧，期待哦
我也想看看我的能耐程度，虽然不曾怀疑，但自信爆满也不太好吧 ><"
哈哈～还蛮期待你们下一次的到访，虽然我不懂你们是谁，但那不重要
对我来说，朋友不一定要知道名字的，有心就可以了，总之就是欢迎啦
2009年11月19日星期四
2009年11月12日星期四
Belonginess of our group
Few days ago, our tutor of Group Dynamic ask us about what you think about group, do you want to belong in a group? As what we can expected, most of us answer "yes" with their reason, and when the tutor ask about my opinion, I say "no"....
Why we need to be in group, sure there is something we can get from it, therefore we are always in group. As general, we can get recognize and feel accepted by the majority if we are in the group, we behave the same way, having the same goal ambition, have fun together and support each other. Belong to a group is very important for human being to survive. But allow me to confront it, do these thing only can apply to group members only?
Sure the answer is no, we still can apply these good thing to ousider too, but then what the reason we want to form a group since we are trying to apply the same good behavior to everyone? Usually, we tend to treat our group members better than outsider, this including listening to ingroup, take care of ingroup, help and support ingroup even the members are not asking for it. Yeah, this is good to hear that we are kind, love and good to people, but sad to say this, it only apply to ingroup members rather than "people", and I recognize it as selfish love, rather than true love.
Everyone have the love, no matter it is conditional or not, selfish or not, big or not, bad or not, we have love in ourselves. Although treating good to ingroup members is always better than treating bad to others, but the name of "group" already limited our that whatever love to only that certain members. But the fact is, there are many people need our love, our care, our attention, and our support too, not only just that certain members in our group.
Yeah I know that we still can be friend with others who is outside of the group, but the case is, by the time we mention we are in a group, we are actually differentiating ourselves with outsider in a clear boundary. And since they are outsider or stranger, it is normal for us to ignore, abandon or even reject to offer our love, our care or even our attention to them without our awareness. Yeah, there is nothing right or wrong in this world, being in a group is no right or wrong since we need social acceptance and mutual support from each other. Just hoping for your awareness, there are many people need our love, please don't selfish to offer them.
Maybe most of us will say, I will help and accept others too if they come to me and ask for help, we are always welcome and willing to help. I wonder, the group always walk together, stay together, behavior together everyday that result in strong unity relationship between each other in group, when someone need help from us, do there left any space for the person to get in? And we only offer help and support if only they join the group? Sure verbally we are welcome others to join our group, but the boundary of the "group" will automatically preventing others from get into the group. We are only good and love our group members, in fact.
I cannot do anything if majority want to be in group no matter what the reason, I respect it and accept it. But at least I know what is happening, I try my best not to belong to any group, I am belong to everyone, as long as there is someone need me, even there is no one for now maybe, I will always ready for it. I will be here if u need me, anytime, anywhere, without reason.
Why we need to be in group, sure there is something we can get from it, therefore we are always in group. As general, we can get recognize and feel accepted by the majority if we are in the group, we behave the same way, having the same goal ambition, have fun together and support each other. Belong to a group is very important for human being to survive. But allow me to confront it, do these thing only can apply to group members only?
Sure the answer is no, we still can apply these good thing to ousider too, but then what the reason we want to form a group since we are trying to apply the same good behavior to everyone? Usually, we tend to treat our group members better than outsider, this including listening to ingroup, take care of ingroup, help and support ingroup even the members are not asking for it. Yeah, this is good to hear that we are kind, love and good to people, but sad to say this, it only apply to ingroup members rather than "people", and I recognize it as selfish love, rather than true love.
Everyone have the love, no matter it is conditional or not, selfish or not, big or not, bad or not, we have love in ourselves. Although treating good to ingroup members is always better than treating bad to others, but the name of "group" already limited our that whatever love to only that certain members. But the fact is, there are many people need our love, our care, our attention, and our support too, not only just that certain members in our group.
Yeah I know that we still can be friend with others who is outside of the group, but the case is, by the time we mention we are in a group, we are actually differentiating ourselves with outsider in a clear boundary. And since they are outsider or stranger, it is normal for us to ignore, abandon or even reject to offer our love, our care or even our attention to them without our awareness. Yeah, there is nothing right or wrong in this world, being in a group is no right or wrong since we need social acceptance and mutual support from each other. Just hoping for your awareness, there are many people need our love, please don't selfish to offer them.
Maybe most of us will say, I will help and accept others too if they come to me and ask for help, we are always welcome and willing to help. I wonder, the group always walk together, stay together, behavior together everyday that result in strong unity relationship between each other in group, when someone need help from us, do there left any space for the person to get in? And we only offer help and support if only they join the group? Sure verbally we are welcome others to join our group, but the boundary of the "group" will automatically preventing others from get into the group. We are only good and love our group members, in fact.
I cannot do anything if majority want to be in group no matter what the reason, I respect it and accept it. But at least I know what is happening, I try my best not to belong to any group, I am belong to everyone, as long as there is someone need me, even there is no one for now maybe, I will always ready for it. I will be here if u need me, anytime, anywhere, without reason.
2009年11月5日星期四
拍拖了一个月，两人世界
不知不觉，拍拖了大约一个月，两个人的生活，好像没有想象中的简单
向来习惯了一个人，做事都不用交代/解释，我可以做我所喜欢做的事情
两个人了，要见面，要亲密，要联系，要关系，一切不再是一个人的事
多了关心，分享，感觉，拥抱，话题，也多了本分，要求，期望，顾虑
我明白有好也会有坏，只是觉得那是可以更好的，难在需要两个人的共识
我常在想，如果我有女朋友了，有可能说我只想要情侣的好，不要坏的吗？
其实是可以的，有了名份后，享受着情侣关系的同时，再以朋友身份对待
不要求对方做什么，不期望对方应该怎么做，只想对方好，不求任何回报
这是我想要的，但可行度有几高，我心中有数，因为没有多少人可以做到
成为情侣后，我发现不是不可行，只是难在对方也能理解，同时也达成共识
并不期望说对方必须和我一样，毕竟不一样是很正常，一样的话就该谢谢了
若真的对方做不到，我也不能做什么，但至少也不要要求我应该做些什么
问题在于，若对方做不到，要求期望是分不开的，拒绝配合便变成了不爱
我只会表明立场而已，我不要求你明白或接受，但也请别要求我接受/改变
我知道我很特别也很讲究，我只是想对自己诚实，只想轻松地过日子而已~
向来习惯了一个人，做事都不用交代/解释，我可以做我所喜欢做的事情
两个人了，要见面，要亲密，要联系，要关系，一切不再是一个人的事
多了关心，分享，感觉，拥抱，话题，也多了本分，要求，期望，顾虑
我明白有好也会有坏，只是觉得那是可以更好的，难在需要两个人的共识
我常在想，如果我有女朋友了，有可能说我只想要情侣的好，不要坏的吗？
其实是可以的，有了名份后，享受着情侣关系的同时，再以朋友身份对待
不要求对方做什么，不期望对方应该怎么做，只想对方好，不求任何回报
这是我想要的，但可行度有几高，我心中有数，因为没有多少人可以做到
成为情侣后，我发现不是不可行，只是难在对方也能理解，同时也达成共识
并不期望说对方必须和我一样，毕竟不一样是很正常，一样的话就该谢谢了
若真的对方做不到，我也不能做什么，但至少也不要要求我应该做些什么
问题在于，若对方做不到，要求期望是分不开的，拒绝配合便变成了不爱
我只会表明立场而已，我不要求你明白或接受，但也请别要求我接受/改变
我知道我很特别也很讲究，我只是想对自己诚实，只想轻松地过日子而已~
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