Thanks for loving me, Wen

Without my awareness, we in couple relationship for > 3 months
It is already consider as over the "testing" and "danger" period
I can't say for sure we are safe and happy forever, but is ok for me
I appreciate what I have now, really thank you for being with me.

My life become busy suddenly, busy to think of u, busy to care of u
U adapted into my life, and now u are in my list of considerations
Consideration of daily regulation, other than play online games
The important rank of consideration adjusting, I want u to be top
Time needed for arrangement, but I will try my best, because of u

Sorry for sometimes, I am not mentally present when u need me
Yeah, I am busy with my game as usual, as routine as daily task
I know u dislike me play online games, I really can understand it
I am trying, to quit from games, including RO, dota or whatever
Sorry for dissapointed, sorry for ignorance, sorry for loneliness

I can see ur love, ur care, ur attention on me, it is a huge wave
U remember my many word, u do many things to cheer me up
U sad for me, happy for me, worry for me, and angry for me too
I really failed to understand the reasons of worry for others
But I am congruence with myself, ur caring really touching me

I don't know what is love, and I don't know how I can love u too
Please allow me to learn, I willing to change for u, Yap AI Wen~

避免双重关系，基本原则

辅导其中一个原则，不能与客户有双重关系，哪怕是利益，或友谊关系也好，一律不被鼓励。原因是避免不必要的尴尬，也去除多余的心理障碍。打个比方，若我的朋友很看得起我，也许会害怕丢脸而不敢说心里话；若看不起我，根本不可能与我这种人分享心事，所以与陌生人辅导，大家不懂对方背景，可能这一辈子也只是见那么一次，所以效果会比较实际，也干脆磊落的。

学了很多，也常与陌生人练习辅导技巧，其实并不难，而且超有效的。实习经验多了，也慢慢习惯了，聆听已成为了生活方式，偶尔也会分析两句，有种感觉，像是过着辅导师的生活，应用所学到的面对身边的一切。

一直以来，都没什么困难，直到牵系到本身的感情问题，才深深明白不能有双重关系的道理。我常在想，既然辅导那么好，为什么不能用在其它关系上呢？也因为这原因，我常把感情关系用以辅导方式面对，希望能正面的增强感情，可惜的是原来双重关系的麻烦，在于过多的情绪交错，导致双方/单方感情用事，一切原则道理都变成垃圾，常理变成问题，分析变成解释，讨论变成恶化，沉默变成逃避，最终达成共识，当没有一回事。

虽然如此，还是深信着辅导的好处，只是不能由有双重关系的两个人一起进行，哪怕本身的修年再高，经验再多，也不得犯上辅导大忌，不然就是自找麻烦，自掘坟墓行为。